One of the biggest things caregivers and widows deal with is the feeling of being overwhelmed. I remember feeling that way for a while when my husband was battling his cancer. Even when he was in remission, he didn’t have the strength to do the things here at the house that had always been his responsibility. Caring for a loved one it is a huge task.
Allowing others to help when they offer may be out of your character. However, I eventually learned that not only was it a blessing to me to be able to respond, “Yes, if you want, to you could plow my driveway,” or do such and such,” but it gives them the opportunity to be blessed as well.
After I became a widow, it took a couple years to be able to adjust to all of the added responsibility and to learn how to prioritize the many things that I felt needed to be done.
Letting others do things for us and prioritizing certainly help us when we are overwhelmed. The most important thing that I remembered is when I’m weary or overwhelmed with this life, I fall into God’s arms. He is waiting for us to rest in Him. He says in Matthew 11:28, “Come unto me all ye that labor and I will give you rest.” God wants to be “…our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” (Psalm 46:1) Tell Him how you are feeling and remember the Bible says that our load is heavy, but His is light. Ask Him to carry your burdens for you.
Although we find ourselves walking or swimming in deep waters and it feels like we will drown, we can be assured that He promised to never let the waters overtake us. I learned I needed to trust in that promise and to rest in that truth while I reached out to Him and allowed Him to pull me out of the waters and up to the other side. Once I realized my need and turned to Him, my burden became light. That weight I was carrying was gone.
It has been three years since my beloved went to Heaven, and I am still learning. However, the more I remember to turn to God and rely on Him as my husband, the calmer my pathway becomes. Remember, we do not have to walk this life alone!

Read also: Psalm 43:2 “When thou passeth through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee….”20150424141635 (1)

13 thoughts on “Overwhelmed?

  1. The eternal God is they refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms. He carries you through those waters when you haven’t the strength to swim. I’m so sorry you HAD to learn
    those lessons, but I am so glad you were ABLE to learn them! Love you, Sis


  2. Perfect timing for me to read this perfectly fitting blog. I was thinking there was something wrong with me for not being able to handle things then I realized that I am doing the work that used to be done by 2 people and started to relax some. Your blog once again has touched me when I needed it most.
    No mor time to type now…busy bee…winter’s coming!

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  3. Thank you. I am still plugging away…survivor mode adjusting to my new normal still…it is an unending journey, and thankfully I have always enjoyed challenges! Melissa Oberholzer


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  4. Widow’s Christian Place led me to your blog today. Our stories sound similar–cancer, care-giving, three years a widow, accepting help, and moving on through God’s faithfulness. My first book is The Covering of Feathers. My second one will be out by Christmas and is called Feathers, Faithfulness and Friends.


  5. Thank you for this very uplifting and encouraging post. It’s just what I needed as the past couple of days I’ve felt depressed. It’s been a little over 21 months since my dear husband went to his heavenly home. After being married for 43 years, it is taking time to adjust to this new life without him. Jesus has been my strength.


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    • We never know when the “waves” will knock us off our feet. But with Jesus as our strength we can keep on keeping on. He always lifts us back up, doesn’t he? Thanks for your comment. May God bless you as you find your way.


  6. I love to read Psalm 43:2 when I feel like a capsized boat being pulled under by a raging river. We had a storm this past weekend and I had some damage to my home and I was forced to handle all the things my husband always took care of. And then it was the two and a half year anniversary of his death on top of everything else. Sometimes I just have to make myself STOP everything and listen. God gives perfect peace.


  7. Where would we be if we didn’t have Jesus to lift us up and help us through this journey of grief? I know my life would have turned out much different! Found your website through Ferree. Continue to rest in God’s arms. It’s the only place we’ll find our peace! Thank you for sharing!

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  8. Thank you for posting this. This is my story as well. It is comforting to know that others are traveling this same journey, and with God’s help we can make it through. I lost my husband of 53 years to cancer, two and a half years ago, and I am still learning. I miss him everyday, but time is healing the pain of the loss. I can smile when I remember the times we had together, with out that deep ache in my heart. I know he is in a better place, free from pain, and I will see him again.


    • Knowing we will see them again is definitely a great comfort as well as knowing they are in fullness of all joy. My pastor just had a good sermon on being overwhelmed. I hope to blog it soon. God bless you, Kathy


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