In this blog, we’ll discuss the M of the acronym Wisdom. (W idows,
I solation, S uffering, D ecision M aking, O vercoming, M arriage).
Marriage meets the needs of companionship and intimacy. God created us with two needs; love and impact. The love we receive fills our need for a relationship and for intimacy. The impacts our marriage fills is our feelings of significance and meaning. Even though God wants to fill these needs, most of us depend on our mates to provide them for us. As widows, we now feel lost and empty. Many widows feel they have lost their “reason” for living.
We need to remember that God not only desires to fill that emptiness, but He is the only one that can fully do so. God not only desires a relationship with us, but He also has a plan and a purpose for each of us from now on. I remember searching for my purpose those first couple years after losing my husband. I had no idea how full my life would be five years later.
Sometimes widows try to replace their needs by shopping or going to events and vacations. I certainly did my share of both!
Because we live in a couple’s society, we now feel like a fifth wheel. We desire someone to share dinner with; it’s very lonely eating alone.
Many women miss physical intimacy. After all, God created us male and female, and romance doesn’t die with age. How can we deal with these longings?
This study suggests several helps. Be aware of your weakness, watch what you see, read, listen to or think, and recognize spiritual welfare. Stay away from romance novels and programs and work to change your thought life. We need to guard our hearts and take personal responsibility for our choices.
While re-marriage is right for some, it isn’t for everyone. If you find yourself considering re-marriage, there are many factors to consider. Make sure you and the one whom you are considering to marry have a spiritual bond. You certainly want to be able to serve the Lord together. Relatives also need to be considered. You may both have children you will be bringing into the marriage, both older and younger. Are you compatible? Is the love you feel unfailing love or romantic love? (lust). A marriage can only be built on firm, unfailing love. You’ll also need to consider where you’ll live. Often couples don’t think about this before they marry. It’s important to have decided that first. It may be wise to seek Godly counsel as well.
Make sure you both have prayed intently, alone and together. If you both feel peace concerning marriage and you have considered all of the things listed above, than step into it with faith. However, if you feel any doubt, don’t step forward without counseling.
I pray that you find God’s perfect will for your life. God bless you.
Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in god, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and God.