Overwhelmed?


One of the biggest things caregivers and widows deal with is the feeling of being overwhelmed. I remember feeling that way for a while when my husband was battling his cancer. Even when he was in remission, he didn’t have the strength to do the things here at the house that had always been his responsibility. Caring for a loved one it is a huge task.
Allowing others to help when they offer may be out of your character. However, I eventually learned that not only was it a blessing to me to be able to respond, “Yes, if you want, to you could plow my driveway,” or do such and such,” but it gives them the opportunity to be blessed as well.
After I became a widow, it took a couple years to be able to adjust to all of the added responsibility and to learn how to prioritize the many things that I felt needed to be done.
Letting others do things for us and prioritizing certainly help us when we are overwhelmed. The most important thing that I remembered is when I’m weary or overwhelmed with this life, I fall into God’s arms. He is waiting for us to rest in Him. He says in Matthew 11:28, “Come unto me all ye that labor and I will give you rest.” God wants to be “…our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” (Psalm 46:1) Tell Him how you are feeling and remember the Bible says that our load is heavy, but His is light. Ask Him to carry your burdens for you.
Although we find ourselves walking or swimming in deep waters and it feels like we will drown, we can be assured that He promised to never let the waters overtake us. I learned I needed to trust in that promise and to rest in that truth while I reached out to Him and allowed Him to pull me out of the waters and up to the other side. Once I realized my need and turned to Him, my burden became light. That weight I was carrying was gone.
It has been three years since my beloved went to Heaven, and I am still learning. However, the more I remember to turn to God and rely on Him as my husband, the calmer my pathway becomes. Remember, we do not have to walk this life alone!

Read also: Psalm 43:2 “When thou passeth through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee….”20150424141635 (1)

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Facing your fear


I remember the day I received the telephone call that my husband had “something wrong with his blood”. The next call was from a hematologist who proceeded to tell me that my husband had to go to the emergency room immediately. She said, “Your husband’s hemoglobin is so low that he is at a risk for a heart attack.”  The fear that gripped my heart was like none I have ever felt before.  I called my pastor to tell him what was happening. I can remember it as if it were yesterday. I said, ” I am so afraid. I do not usually feel this way, but I am very afraid. ”

Later, while my husband was waiting for his transfusion, my pastor and his wife walked in. We visited for a while and the pastor prayed for us. He addressed my fear while talking to God. A calm came over me once again.

Most people who have received the news “you have cancer” or the news that your loved one may have cancer have experienced this same fear. I want to reassure you that you do not have to live with fear. The bible says, “Fear thou not; for I am with thee….” (Isaiah 41:10) God is not a God of fear. You need to be honest with God and tell him you are afraid.  Ask God to give you His peace and He will. Each time your fear returns give it to God.  Remember that God is walking by your side if you are trusting in Him.